Pain Is Inevitable, Suffering Is Optional -by Dhyani Shah

 

When you think of the physical and emotional pain that comes with it, you notice something funny. Many people assume that it is the way we react to painful and painful experiences that leads us to deny our feelings. When we react to pain with resistance, thinking about how bad it is, being afraid that the pain will never end or that we will be completely overwhelmed by it, squeezing it and trying to push it away, we prolong our suffering. Moreover, it is not the challenge itself, but our response to it, that causes us the most suffering.

It is possible to remain in the present and decide whether to turn our suffering against ourselves or simply leave it to itself. Granted, it is not easy to relax into the pain and let it be, confident that we will be able to ride the wave.

The degree to which we can cope with the suffering in our lives drives our level of happiness, which means that we are able to limit time. By letting our mind rest and aiming to change the experience, we will notice that the pain changes when we adjust our mindset. When we have to adapt, to what extent we suffer and how much our minds change in response to it, we change. With training and conditions, you can prove that you have the ability to overcome pain and thrive.

We can heal if we tap into our collective imagination and rely on everything that brings empathy and compassion. We are able to recognize and walk the path of our own healing and the healing of others. Thus, we prepare a sick culture for pain and loss, but we are able to walk in it ourselves.

We see the systems of suppression that prevent all beings from living in the right relationships, and we see ourselves as victims of these systems, not as perpetrators.

When we turn pain into our default self - into our narrative - we overlook the details of our emotions. When we are confronted with something unfortunate and painful, many of us begin to ask "why" and immerse ourselves in psychological states that lead to more suffering. These questions are forward-looking - focused, leaving us in a place of fear and anxiety, driven by the suffering that pulls us away from the present of the present moment. We are so focused on ACT that despite this very humanistic approach, I readily agree that major changes in our lives are likely to trigger painful memories.

We are focused on what we can control - and we don't have to suffer - but it will be painful. We focus exclusively on pain and on the things, we have no control over, such as our emotions, thoughts and actions. Even if you can't go through life without pain, you have the choice of how you react.

Use this time to wish that all beings, even people who are difficult for you, are free from suffering. Find a way to experience the pain that is present in your loss and to continue your life. If you try to step on it, you will be disappointed, because your bruised knee hurts even more and your heart feels even more broken after the loss.

By accepting the pain that comes with every challenge we face, and recognizing that pain is a transient part of the process, it is possible to let suffering pass directly by. Pain makes us stronger, heals us and is the first step towards healing ourselves, not the last. I hope that the above strategies will help you to minimize the suffering you are experiencing.

First, it is useful to recognize that people with chronic pain are more prone to depression and anxiety than people without. This is a vicious circle in which pain triggers negative thoughts and self-talk, which translate into feelings that coincide with suffering and increase muscle tension.

Suffering can change when people become aware of this chain reaction and learn to react differently to their pain. If you are ready, you can start looking for a therapist or a mental health expert who specializes in the problem which are deep rooted that cause mental pain.

Dhyani Shah 

Dhyani is an avid reader who is very enthusiastic about the art of writing and travelling. She is an ambivert who stands up passionately for women and their rights. She wants to pursue her career in travelling the world and publishing the stories in the right medium.