If you feel insecure in a relationship -by Dhyani Shah

 

Do you feel insecure if your gut wants to tell you something, or could it serve as a warning that a relationship is not right for you?

Not being good enough is especially dangerous when it comes to romantic relationships, as it makes you more vulnerable to feelings of fear and jealousy. If you are unhappy and let your insecurity get out of control and affect your behavior, this can lead to unhealthy interactions where you are not in enough pain and the relationship suffers from unhealthy interactions. Feelings of insecurity can undermine the foundation of a relationship and lead to problematic behaviors in a relationship. You have to be wise, kind, and patient to ensure that your insecurities do not lead you to the end of your relationship, and if they do, you can be wiser and friendlier to yourself.

Identify the source of your insecurities and you can start addressing them in your relationship. You may realize the relationship is not right for you, but how you stop feeling insecure in a relationship will help you to fathom the roots of insecurity so that you are supported in remedying it.

If your insecurities are familiar feelings from other relationships, you can benefit from a stronger reflection on what is going on. Giving yourself time to think and feel, helps you to understand why you feel insecure in a relationship. If you feel insecure because you might compare your partner to others, ask yourself: "What is it about me that makes you feel insecure?"

If someone treats you badly or lies to you, insecurity is a natural and justified reaction. It's easy to dismiss thoughts of insecurity because you know damn well that you're the catch with your own unique traits. But it is important to realize that your relationship is too important and valuable to be jeopardized by your insecurities, not just your partner's.

If you are struggling with feelings of insecurity related to life circumstances or mental illness, the right therapist can help you develop the skills to deal with your insecurities. By examining your past relationships and passing on your insecurities to your partner, you will have a better understanding of what it takes to feel more secure in a relationship. As you understand your relationship patterns and learn your attachment style, you will have more confidence in your ability to take responsibility for the sense of security within your relationships.

The way to overcome uncertainties is not to overcome them, but one simple tool that should not be underestimated is to contain them. Each time they appear, you learn how to stop caring about what others think of you, so that they disappear from your life forever.

If you feel insecure in a relationship, pull yourself out of it and allow yourself to remember that you are worthy of all the goodness that life has to offer. Change your negative thinking patterns by constantly imagining that you can focus on the positive aspects of the relationship.

If you want to stop making someone feel insecure in your relationship, you need to look at your behavior honestly. The first step is simple: stop doing things you do until you find a way to do them without looking for ways to make someone unsafe. This does not mean that you ever have anxious or insecure feelings, but that they do occur and you must learn to have the courage not to turn those feelings into behavior that harms the relationship. If you find things that do that to you, you can stop them by stopping what unsettles you or someone around you in a relationship with them.

If you are wondering why you are so insecure in a relationship and can’t figure it out for yourself, seek help. If insecurity is an issue in your relationship with your partner, don’t speculate on how you can cure it. In relationships where a person tends to withdraw, is less communicative or is not good at verbalizing their feelings, their partner can make them feel insecure about what is really going on with them. Misinterpreting the situation, exaggerating the problem is never a solution to any of it.

Dhyani Shah 

Dhyani is an avid reader who is very enthusiastic about the art of writing and travelling. She is an ambivert who stands up passionately for women and their rights. She wants to pursue her career in travelling the world and publishing the stories in the right medium.